Local Mom Scoop asked Sofia Robirosa, a licensed marriage and family therapist and a local mom, to be a part of the NEW YEAR, NEW YOU SERIES with some help on parenting. Something to think about!
Start 2015 with the right parenting tools!
Is one of your New Year resolutions to improve your family relationship and feel closer to your children? Do you need some ideas on how to make things better at home?
Here is the countdown:
10. Spend 15 minutes a day one-on-one playing with your child. Let them choose the activity.
9. Find one new fun thing to do outside of your home with your kids that you haven’t done before.
8. Have dinner with your children without watching television, or cell phones or tablets allowed, at least one time a week.
7. Avoid yes or no questions with your children. Instead of asking, “Did you have a good day today at school?” Ask, “What was something fun you did today at school?”
6. Focus more on what your child does well than not, and tell them as frequently as possible.
5. Listen for your child’s feelings and tell them what you think they are feeling. This will help them feel understood.
4. Be consistent. Create structure at home and define boundaries.
3. Create a new family tradition. Think of what can be done around holidays, birthdays, or any time of the year that can become a fun activity to repeat each year.
2. Nurture positive relationships around your children. Whether it is with a significant other, relatives, or friends, children learn from what they see around them. If your child sees others respect you, care for you, have healthy fun with you, there will be higher chances that they will mimic that behavior.
1. Make time some time to yourself. If you don’t have any family that can help, maybe get a fellow mommy that is in need of alone time as well and take turns taking care of each other’s children. You give a lot as a mommy, so you need to care for yourself to continue to give!
And for a bonus tip, and probably the most relevant: Minimize the time your children spend in front of a screen by providing other avenues of distraction and allowing for more family interaction.