Last month, I reached out to to Sofia Robirosa, a licensed marriage and family therapist to share 10 Parenting Tools to Help You Get Through 2015. There were so many tools that seemed so simple, yet I was completely forgetting as parent. I received some amazing feedback from many local moms. So I invited her back!
Since we are SHARING THE LOVE this month at Local Mom Scoop, Sofia was gracious enough to share her scoop on Why Kissing Your Hubby Is Good For Your Kids.
Check it out!
By Sofia Robirosa
As a mom, there are priceless moments that happen every day…. but some certainly stick out more than others.
In the month of February, where we celebrate love and relationships, a priceless moment that comes up to mind is when I realized my daughter would laugh when my husband and I kiss.
This is how it happened….I was in the kitchen while my daughter was having lunch, and my husband and I kissed. We noticed that our daughter’s eyes lit up and she smiled. We continued to give each other small pecks on the lips to test whether she would smile again, and she busted out in laughter. Mind you, she was about 11 1/2 months old when this happened.
That was a quick lesson that showed me that maintaining romance with my husband was not only important to remain close to each other, but it is also something that made my daughter happy.
Thinking about the well-being of your children is partly considering the well-being of your relationship with your significant other and friends.
Children learn about the world in two different ways: By having conversations, and by copying their roles models’ behaviors.
What does this mean when it comes to love?
If you want your child to learn how to have healthy and meaningful relationships, it is important to talk to them about what that means, and also, lead by example.
Here are some tips on how to do this:
1) Depending on the age of your child, talking about what a healthy relationship is, is very important. Have conversations about what love is and what it consists of. Keep in mind topics such as boundaries, respect, cooperation, and spending quality time with your loved ones. Provide real life and realistic examples. Make sure to include these topics as significant factors in both friendships and dating.
2) Build your life surrounded by healthy relationships. This means that your relationship with your significant other should look like the relationship you want your daughter or son to have in the future. If you want your daughter to learn how to pick a “good man” to marry, or a “good wife” for your son, she and he should see positive examples at home. This means having healthy boundaries, regular manifestations of love, respect, cooperation, and spending a healthy amount of quality time together.
This transpires to your friendships as well.
Surround yourself with supportive friends that are present in times to celebrate achievements and significant events of your life. Nurture friendships that can communicate effectively and add positivity to your life. Slowly turn down people that bring “drama” and anguish.
Celebrations of love, like Valentine’s day, remind us that as individuals we value relationships. Today, I invite you to not only nurture your romantic relationships because it feels good and makes you happy, but also because you will be providing a valuable lesson to your children.
Imagine the ripple effect of this for generations to come!
Your Therapy Friend,
Do you want to relax and feel pampered?
Join Sofia in “Pampering your Soul through your Sole” event
on March 5th. RSVP here.
Receive a pedicure, wine and learn relaxation techniques.
Feel free to share or invite a friend.