When was the last time you had a marriage interview?
The last one I remember was when my husband and I were both asked questions during our torturous pre-canna class which was a course for couples preparing to be married in a Catholic church. We answered the questions privately in a notebook. Then we were forced to discuss issues like: finances, babies, kids, in-laws, home and so on. Who cares? We thought.
What did we know at 26?
Life was super simple then. We had a house, 2 cars and good paying jobs. What else did we need?
But little did I know that things would become more complicated.
Well, my girlfriend and founder of The Eyes of A Boy asked me to be part of her March Marriage Challenge. I thought this would be a great way to reconnect with my husband. It’s been quite hectic since the holidays and, we and like many couples, get stuck on what I call “The Hampster Wheel Of Life”. Between the morning routine, dinner time, after school activities, weekend birthday parties , bedtime routine and electronics, you basically keep going and going and realize you’re not communicating or even talking to each other.
I thought it would be a good time to have another marriage interview after all these years. There are so many wins, surprises, and challenges we’ve been facing, I wasn’t sure if I still knew my spouse after 18 years.
Get the Marriage scoop below to see if we’ve completely lost our minds, we are on the verge of divorce, or it might just be true love.
What do you love most about each other?
Andy: Her sense of humor and what a great mom she is.
Heather: I love his sense of humor and his easy going personality.
What annoys you most about each other?
Andy: We get on each other’s nerves once in a while, but you don’t do anything specific that annoys me.
Heather: The shoes left at the front door drive me insane!! With a shoe size of 11 1/2, they seriously get in the way. Also, when you decide to soak a non-stick pan. I don’t get it! It’s non-stick! You can clean it right then.
What is your favorite activity to do together?
Andy: Date night where we stay home and play a game.
Heather: Watching football with you. Even though our team sucks, it’s the one thing I never watched until we got married. I think we have fun watching it together. Your perspective is the game! Mine is how many times the cheerleaders hair flip and how ridiculous the ref throws the flag.
What is something the other does that just melts your heart?
Andy: When you laugh uncontrollably!
Heather: He get’s sentimental at Disney commercials. I love watching him tear up thinking about our girls and sharing those memories.
Do you have a free to hook up with a celebrity list?
Andy: No – Is this why you started bringing up Ryan Reynolds?
Heather: Ryan Reynolds!
Do you remember your first fight?
Heather: No! You and I don’t really fight. We usually have one GOOD disagreement once a year around the same hectic time when we are both feeling so overwhelmed and lonely that neither one of us refuses to meet half way. In the end, we make up.
Have you had any problems? If so, how did you overcome it?
Andy: No real problems. Small things usually come up when we don’t get time together just the two of us.
Heather: Remember when we couldn’t get pregnant right away? We did IVF and the negative result was one of the worst and best days of our lives. I will never forget crying on the back porch, drinking Heineken and knowing how sad you were. I didn’t feel alone. I think it brought us closer as friends and husband and wife.
How do you feel about your future together?
Andy: I am excited about our future together. I am certain that we will be in love for ever.
Heather: I think it will be filled with laughter, stress, drinking, parenting, sex and fun. There will still be many disagreements on how to do something, lot’s of cursing the Miami Dolphins, fun vacation trips, great nights out with friends and Sunday mornings in bed with our kids.
What is your advice to other couples?
Andy: Kiss and say I love you every day….Shower together!!!
Heather: Communicate and really listen to each other. You will always travel through the “peaks” and “valleys” of marriage, but if you can ride through them together, you will have a long lasting marriage.